Helicopter Parents: Time to Land the Chopper

[lboogie]

http://www.myfoxboston.com/myfox/pages/Home/Detail;jsessionid=984CAAD3A50B13EC79BC87389C9DDAF9 ?contentId=5491480&version=7&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=1.1.1&sflg=1

http://www.sd331.k12.id.us/articles/view/4572

http://www.coreperformance.com/article.php?p=3&s=&id=296

[The Point]

Number Three fits the bill... Oh boy... Thanks I'm gonna print it out and hand it out...Thanks for the link

[Rodder08]

These articles are for every parent that feels that their child is a Division 1 basketball player. I am going to make these articles a must read for all the parents on any of the teams I coach. Lboogie hats off to your research.

[da silent 1]

reading is fun or reading is fundamental. every coach i am sure has said the same thing as these esteemed individuals. it is nice that they have recognized to some extent that the phenom has become problematic to youth sport participation. as a coach spanning old school, generation x, generation y, and now the newest one yet to be coined. i do hope that parents, coaches, players and fans read these articles and take seriously what they are saying and what the impact is on young athletes. adults are suppose to monitor and make it better. it appears and i would suggest that most coaches would agree that things have gotten worst. as coaches as best we can need to address this as delicately, forcefully, tactfully as we can with our parents and players. again mizzzzz. info distributer, keep the intel coming. thank you!!!!!

[4street]

One thing about those parents; they're there and that beats the alternative. I've seen situations where girls have gotten their monthly visitor on the court, and there weren't any parents there to help out. I've seen a situation where the girls were left by themselves in a hotel unsupervised while the coach is out looking for a party. There is a lot of narcissism involved in these type of posts with this expert or this coach acting as if they have THE answer, but no one should have the interest in a child that a parent has.

[da silent 1]

i certainly do not at any juncture consider anyone an expert on anything. the point of the article is not an answer or a conclusive solution. it only is an identification of a problem that exist. the process of solving any problem that spans more than the individual is group participation and group solution. i was speaking from the standpoint of a coach, not a parent, nor did i intend to negate participation of parents. the articles identified the traits to be attached to this problem. i only suggested it be presented as best for each situation by a coach to his team and parents as applicable. to read anything that suggest it is the ANSWER would be not a good thing in problem solving. to identify specifics defending the anti of the article does not address in any way what i read the article to be pointing out. if in fact you feel that your helicoptering is positive the article nor the comments don't apply and that is a good thing for you, i would suggest!!!

[Rodder08]

One thing about those parents; they're there and that beats the alternative. I've seen situations where girls have gotten their monthly visitor on the court, and there weren't any parents there to help out. I've seen a situation where the girls were left by themselves in a hotel unsupervised while the coach is out looking for a party. There is a lot of narcissism involved in these type of posts with this expert or this coach acting as if they have THE answer, but no one should have the interest in a child that a parent has.

I think you have mistaken what the article is stating. Parents need to continue to be involved with their children but not to the excess that it is harmful to the growth of their child. And yes as a parent you should want what is best for your child but is dictating or trying to control every decision or situation helping your child? I let my players know your parents can get you cut from my team. I hold my players responsible for their parents & families actions. (I speaking primarily of 6th graders and older).

As a coach all I want parents to do is be parents to their child, not their agent, trainer or any other person, just their parents. Help them by giving them love, positive encouragement, truthful advice and support. We all have the responsibility of helping young people build their character and if a parent is making all the decisions for a young adult when does that young adult ever get an opportunity to build their character and take responsibility for what happens to them good or bad?

Just One Man's Opinion:cool:

[DALIST]

Rodder08..parents want to parent there kids for life! Always wanting to fight every single adverse situation their kid may face! Let them grow up and fight there own battles! Yes life is going to get rough, but they will be ok..and they will get stronger in the process! Parents want to be the loaded weapon and go get alllllllllllll the bad guys in the world. But sometimes the farce is not worth the fight!

[arbitraryj]

I have issues with any type of general sweep because one size does not fit all ages, maturities, conditions. And coaches often characterize parents as problems whenever there is a difference of opinion.

parents should consider the circumstances, the integrity of the adults involved, and the age/maturity of the children when deciding how to balance their involvement & guidance

a 11yr old player needs a different level of involvement than a 16yr old. A HS team is different than a travel team or a house league team.

This is a good list to check yourself against periodically. Be your kid's back up, not their bodyguard.

But don't ever forget to protect and defend your kids when the situation calls for adult intervention. Like a good parent, I KEEPS me an active membership at ridedownthere.com

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